"I realised I was desperate to attempt anything that could potentially get me out of the vicious cycle I was in. It was a very dangerous cycle because only I knew the implications it had on me. I was feeling lost, helpless, useless, unaccomplished, insecure: these are only a few of the negative thoughts that consumed me. My loved ones may have noticed that something was wrong but would have never guessed how damaged and confused I became.
I have always felt sceptical about life coaching programs. Even more of ones run by so-called feminist groups. I have no problem with such programs but they never appealed to me. My issue was that I never related to the feminist movements I know of. They have always seemed to contradict my way of thinking and my beliefs. I didn’t want to live my life feeling the need to compare myself to the opposite sex. I didn’t want to always feel that I’m in a competition with my husband. I want to be able to accept that I have a role in life as a woman and that he has a different role in life as a man. We’re created differently and we function differently. I wanted to be loving and caring towards him without feeling as though I'm betraying my own femininity. I wanted to truly be able to be vulnerable in his presence. Sadly, everything I was ever taught about the characteristics of a ‘strong’ woman went against that. Consequently, often I was fighting a battle within myself; my natural self against everything I was being taught.
Something about this program was different. I wasn't sure what it was exactly. One of the factors that made the programme more appealing to me was the fact it was going to be coached by a Muslim woman. I was in need of someone I felt would truly understand me.
That day I made a decision that I would invest in myself. I decided that I was going to go forth with this program. In all honesty, I was still sceptical of how successful this programme was going to be for me personally. However, I put my trust and faith in my Lord, that He would guide me to what's best for me. Finance was another issue for me. Nonetheless, I was willing to make ends meet. I approached this as an investment in myself. If I wanted to become the best version of myself. If I wanted to become a better wife, mother and daughter; I would have to take care of ME.
The positive energy and feeling I had after just one session gave me hope that I am finding my path that would lead me to a positive change. I can honestly say it was the best thing I’ve invested my money in; self-growth. It was truly transformational. The course wasn’t just general tools and techniques on how to change. It was tailored for me as a woman. It was a course that got me back to realigned and balanced me. It helped me channel my energy towards the things that mattered. Selma aided me by giving me tools that helped me find balance in all aspects of life - me, my family and my dreams. The power types helped me in understanding my personality better. It gave me an insight into ways to develop it and allowed me to utilise that knowledge to my advantage.
Selma was everything you could ask for in a coach. Although I had my own reservations about opening up to a complete stranger - she created a safe space for me from the very first session with her warm infectious character. And for that, I’m truly grateful. I would strongly recommend that you embark on this journey if you’re seeking to transform your life."